We need to be kind to ourselves. This means kindness toward all aspects of our being. We know that kindness means the absence of anger. It also means not wanting to hurt someone else. But what if things seem to be falling apart for us? What if deep down we feel that we have really messed things up? Those are the parts of us that hurt the most. Those are the hardest parts of ourselves to love. But remember that whatever the circumstances, we are always loved by the Creator of the Universe and the Master of our Souls – no matter what!
Maitri means sticking with ourselves even when we feel like losers. It is from Buddhism. Maitri is loving-kindness. How do we do that?
First we need to become aware of our focus. Who and where do we place most of our thoughts? If they are mostly internal, and about us, we need to change our perception and our focus will change. How do we do that?
It takes practice, but we immediately change our internal thought to an external thought. My personal way of doing this is to think of God. Just think of God. If we don’t know what to think, just say over and over God, God, God, God…..Thank God for something, the rain, the sun, the good smell in the air, whatever. Do this as often as necessary. Keep doing it. After all, we live in a fallen world.
Christianity says our world fell when Eve ate the apple at the suggestion of “Evil.” In the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu, he says our world fell apart when we became separated from nature, and became enemies to each other and to ourselves. Today we think of it as separation from the ideal which opens the door for our suffering. Lao Tzu calls it the loss of the Great Integrity. Interesting isn’t it that they are both so similar?